When we were all kids, our parents are the ones that took care of us and making sure that we are growing strong and healthy. They will give us their best in providing our needs and there is nothing for us to worry because we knew that they will always be there for us. But as we grow older, we want to explore and try new things and that’s when the problem begins – they couldn’t let go.
This post is specially written to all the parents out there who find it hard to let their children go. Here’s an inside scoop on what’s going on in their mind and why they want to leave home. I’m writing this as a perspective of a daughter and I’m not here to condemn anyone but to express my opinions. My mum and dad are one of those parents that couldn’t let me go. And I’m already 22 years old!
But first, to the not-so-little children out there (I’m referring to those that are already 18 years old and above)… As we grow older, we would want to see the world and there are so many things out there for us to explore, and sometimes we would like to further our studies or apply for a job in another state or country. But the our only obstacle is our parents; partly because our they don’t allow us to go and come out with all sorts of reasons like “that place isn’t safe”, “it’s too far”, “you won’t be able to handle it on your own”, “you’re not independent enough” or the most common one… “There are lots of universities and colleges here. Why would you want to go so far just to get a certificate back?” Those reasons are valid, but we all know there were all excuses and not their main reason on why we cannot go.
You see… Partly they don’t want you to go is because they love you and they couldn’t imagine you living in a dangerous world without them. They couldn’t stop thinking what if something bad would happen to you and they’re not there to protect you. I don’t blame them for this because they have been with us for at least 17 years! That’s a long time and it’s hard to let go of something you treasure so much. Imagine giving away something you love!
But parents… If we never get out of our comfort zone now, then when can we ever get out of our comfy bubble? One day we will have to move out and move on as a young adult to tackle our own issues, without the security of knowing that your watchful care is always going to be near. If we don’t fall and fail, how can we ever grow and learn? Dr. Jonas Salk once said “Good parents give their children roots and wings—roots to know where home is and wings to fly off and practice what has been taught them.” How can we practice what you’ve taught us when we can’t use our wings? It’s like you’ve given us wings, but don’t want us to fly.
CBN.com says that if you never let a child test their wings by moving a little further away from the parents’ care, then sometimes they end up developing the symptoms of fear, extreme shyness or a social phobia and end up being afraid of moving forward in life. Not all kids will develop psychological or emotional fears because of overprotective parents, but it can be one of several factors that slow down their personal development and inner strength to move forward toward the next stage of life. Yes, I know it’s hard for you to do it because of love, but remember, part of that love is to equip us (your children) and prepare us to one day leave the nest to literally launch forward. Continue reading →